So glad that Christmas time is finally over.  I love my family but family gatherings were getting old.  Now its time to move on and settle down into married life.  I feel like Bill and I have been non stop since the moment we said "I Do".  From the wedding we went to Tulsa for a weekend getaway in which we shopped for Christmas gifts and chilled at the Hard Rock, I thought it would be a relaxing thing, but it wasn't thanks to me...I decided to lock the keys in the car and Bill had to call a locksmith, I had a pretty nasty head ache and the onset of a UTI.  Not exactly what I envisioned for us.  Once we got back we had someone staying with us every night so we never actually had our apartment to ourselves.  I loved the company, don't get me wrong, but I am ready to settle down into married life and get a routine going as well as a budget.  It feels like we have spent so much this month and I know that is because of wedding and Christmas.  One of my biggest fears about getting married was the finances but luckily we have some amazing people in our lives that are helping us getting on our feet.  If there is one thing that I learned from my mom and dad's marriage it was to always have my finances in order and I'm glad that I can finally start doing that.
     I am one of those freaks who loves being home, spending time with my husband and my puppies as well as cleaning and cooking, its pretty theraputic for me.  I haven't been able to do that much lately so I am excited to start taking on that wifely role.  So far, I haven't felt like we are married.  Just two people living under the same roof with no real connection.  I guess thats because we dated so long we already felt married, the wedding was just making it official.  While we didn't live together before we were married we spent so much time together that I already knew his ideocencresies and he mine.  I understand there there is still a lot of adjusting that we have to do because we didn't live together but for some reason it doesn't feel like we are adjusting.  The only thing I have had to get used to is sharing my closet space, HAHA! 
     there are some things that I thought I wasn't going to have to do just yet in our marriage and one of those things is going to bed alone.  I thought that at the beginning of our marriage he would want to go to bed with me and cuddle and maybe watch T.V. but he does what he did when we were dating: puts me to sleep then he goes to the livingroom and plays his video games.  Don't get me wrong I don't mind that he plays video games I just thought that since we were supposed to be in the honeymoon period he would want to lay with me each night.  Of course I don't want to be that naggy wife that tells her husband what to do and isolates him from his friends by not letting him play his game I just wish I could have him in bed with me and also a way that I didn't have to listen to him kill zombies until 2 AM when I have to work at 9 AM.  So, I just let him do as he wishes and try not to complain too much because I know how important it is that he have a social life as well as a married life, its a balancing act. 
     We will see how this transition goes and I will keep you all, if there are any of you, posted on how it goes.  Being a newlywed has its perks but I know that I must adjust to the life he lead before me as well has be adjust to mine.

A Nostalgic Christmas Day

Well, my Christmas day started out amazing, I started new traditions with my new husband...we both wore fleece pajamas (mine were footy pjs, HAHA!)  we woke up at 7:30 and opened up our gifts to each other.  lets just say that my gifts paled in comparison to his: he got me a Mac Book Air for when I start grad school next semester, seriously, how could I compete with that?  As for the rest of the day, it was different than any Christmas past.  At some points in this day, particularly at the evening family gather I wished that I could have reverted back to my childhood where the biggest problem was whether or not my gifts were better than my sisters or cousins.

Now it seems that I am caught in the middle of the drama.  Due to those in my family who are passive aggressive it creates more issues that needed.  The smallest thing that could be handled face to face is too hard for my family.  Here's a lesson for you: saying something behind others backs hurts more than saying it to their face, sure it may be uncomfortable but it gets the job done.  Also, don't hold in issues then blow up, thats no good either.

Because of this Christmas day I have decided that, while I love my family they are too involved and too interested in other family members personal lives.  I also decided that I shouldn't always think that people are good, no matter how hard they try to convince you they are good.  People lie, one second they are nice, then they make something official and you are stuck with them.  Oh and can I mention how much I hate the idea of submission within marriage....thats a whole different blog post though, I won't go there yet.

Throughout this past week I have realized how lucky I am.  I have an amazing husband and in-laws, they have been such rocks for me lately.  I don't know what I would do with out them.

Christmas Time is Here!

Well its time for Christmas, I guess since I have been so busy I haven't really got to enjoy my usual Christmas traditions: going and looking at Christmas lights, walking around Creekmore Park and riding the train while sipping hot cocoa.  The wedding sure did ruin those plans haha. 

Its going to be weird this year, this is the first Christmas in which I will not be waking up with my sisters and mom, seeing what "Santa" brought us and eating breakfast as a family.  This year I get to start my own traditions, what those will be I'm not sure, but since I am on my own with a new husband I guess its time to make our own. 

What are some of your traditions?  I know we are going to wake up and open gifts with Christmas music going.  And I know we are going to make Cinammon Roles for breakfast.

Its going to be bittersweet this year, starting a new life with someone else but having to let go of the old.  Along with the new comes a wedding tomorrow.  My mom is getting married on Christmas Eve, which is exciting.  This will surely change all that I have known my whole life.  Change can be great it just feels like I have had more than enough change for one month, haha!  I am great with it in small doses, its when I have to deal with a mountain of change in a short amount of time that I get drained. 

Because I am in a holiday mood I have posted a link to one of my favorite Christmas songs, its a little twist on Rudolph the Red Nosed Raindeer...enjoy! 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hl8BMR1VyLg&feature=player_detailpage

Wandering Through This Journey We Call Life

This is a blog about my new life.  I decided that it would be a good idea to cram every major life transition that I could into one week so, last week I graduated from college, got married, and moved in with my new husband...who knows that I was thinking when I decided all of this was a good idea especially since I'm not so good with change. 

This blog is designed for my random thoughts, my adjustments to the new life that I am leading, whether those adjustments be easy or difficult.